Crystal…an exercise in free association (originally posted March 5, 2009)

Obviously I didn’t write the song below, but I just felt like posting it. I sang this a lot to Crystal in the last 2 weeks of her all too short life. And it’s funny because I DON’T SING!! I mean, yeah, I sound amazing in the shower, and no one sings better than I do in there! ;^) But really, I don’t sing. But I did for her.
I first sang it to her when she was sleeping. Then we took her down to radiation and I told her she missed my singing. She was not happy! ;^) And in that beautiful voice of hers, that beautiful voice that was fading away and getting quieter and raspier due to the cancer and it’s effects, she said to me, “Encore, encore”. HOW WAS I SUPPOSED TO RESIST?!

So I just started singing. And she smiled.

…..that perfect, beautiful smile that I first fell in love with almost 18 years ago. I would come back from yet another shunt related surgery and I’d be sitting there in class, head half shaved from surgery, baseball cap on….and I’d feel someone watching me. I looked around. And it was her. Smiling at me. Looking at me with those gorgeous blue eyes. And she’d smile that perfect smile, and she’d wink that perfect wink. And I knew someone cared. In that moment, I knew someone truly cared.

I had a mom that did everything she could for me, and a girlfriend that did more than a high school girlfriend should ever have to do. But otherwise, it was kind of a lonely, surgery filled existence, day after day. It seemed like I was either in the hospital, or recovering from being in the hospital. And the days I did go to school, I was struggling to even be there, struggling to keep up with school work, losing friends left and right because they either were never really there in the first place or were nice people that simply didn’t know what to say so they said nothing….but there was always her. Beautiful Crystal Rosella Young, always with a nice word, a listening ear, a hug -a real hug mind you, not one of those fake bullshit hugs. A tight embrace, one from a true friend.

So life got better, the surgeries stopped, everyone lived happily ever after. (yay! :^)

But ever since then, I’ve been her little stalker, never leaving her alone. O;^) Always buggin’, always e mailing or something. Some years we were a little more distant than others, some years we only kept in touch on her birthday. She’d call or write after getting the roses I would send every year. “Signature red roses” she would call them. Always from Lehrers and always just signed “Me”. She was the only woman (that I’m not married to ;^) that I sent roses to every year. The only one. And no, my wife never minded. She knew my love for Crystal was pure. Pure, sweet, innocent, and unconditional. I never asked for anything from Crystal, I never wanted anything, I never expected anything. Simply her friendship, her sincere and real friendship, meant the world to me. And my wife knew that.

And Crystal would get the roses and she’d call or write and we’d catch up and have the best talks! Lately, we’d text. A lot. I love that she didn’t mind, because now I have those texts from her on my phone. Saved forever and ever. I have every single text (and there’s a lot!) from her in the last 6 months, as her journey got harder and harder. I read them. A lot. And I smile. A lot. And I cry. A lot.

Anyway….well lookie there, I guess I did write some stuff. I didn’t just post song lyrics.
I don’t mind sharing this with people. She knew how I felt and so did a whole lot of other people, and I guess now more people do. I’m sorry if anyone is offended or thinks it’s inappropriate. It’s just how I roll.


“Silent Lucidity”

Hush now, don’t you cry
Wipe away the teardrop from your eye
You’re lying safe in bed
It was all a bad dream
Spinning inside your head
Your mind tricked you to feel the pain
Of someone close to you leaving the game of life
So here it is, another chance
Wide awake you face the day
Your dream is over… or has it just begun?

There’s a place I like to hide
A doorway that I run through in the night
Relax child, you were there
But only didn’t realize and you were scared
It’s a place where you will learn
To face your fears, retrace the years
And ride the whims of your mind
Commanding in another world
Suddenly you hear and see
This magic new dimension

I….will be watching over you
I….am gonna help you see it through
I….will protect you in the night
I….am smiling next to you, in Silent Lucidity

If you open your mind for me
You won’t rely on open eyes to see
The walls you built within
Come tumbling down, and a new world will begin

Living twice at once you learn
You’re safe from pain in the dream domain
A soul set free to fly

A round trip journey in your head
Master of illusion, can you realize
Your dream’s alive, you can be the guide but…

I…..will be watching over you
I… gonna help to see it through
I…..will protect you in the night
I… smiling next to you….


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